hi. i'm new here and i've got a bit of a problem. it's really been annoying and upsetting me.
i got my ears pierced december 23rd of last year. i waited the two months i needed for them to heal, probably even a week or two more.
i've always only stretched up one size at a time, no skipping whatsoever. and i've always cleaned my jewelry, washed my hands before stretching, used lube, stretched in the shower, etc. everything i've needed to do for safe stretching. and stretching has always gone smoothly for me until i got to a 10g. my first attempt at stretching to a 10 went horribly. my right lobe took it well, but the left one became very swollen and burned as the day progressed. so i decided to take it out and see what was wrong. when i took it out, the hole oozed pus and blood. i kept it out for the night and cleaned it out thoroughly in the morning and went down to an 18g. i took plenty of time off of stretching to let it heal before going back up, not skipping any sizes as usual. getting to a 10g the second time was a lot easier. but when it came to stretching to an 8g, the left lobe couldn't handle it yet again, so i sized down to a 10g. i've tried to get the left lobe to an 8g four times now. obviously waiting in between each stretch for my lobe to heal. i also had an incident with my girlfriend (accidentally) headbutting me in my left ear while at an 8g, which forced me to go down to a 10g once again. i had been at an 10g in my left lobe for about a month since that incident, and the pain was gone. but the hole itself on the backside of my lobe looked slightly purple and had what looked to be a bruise right next to the hole. but i thought it would be okay to stretch back up to the 8g since the pain was gone. stretching didn't hurt at all, and i had been at an 8g in my left lobe for about 4 days. but my left lobe started to act up again, from what i assume is me being a restless sleeper and the taper catching onto my pillow in the middle of the night. last night, i had to remove the taper because i felt blood on my earlobe. i've decided i'm done trying to fix this and i'm going to let the lobe heal, close up and i'm going to wait to get it repierced.
my problem now is that the hole itself is really torn up. from the front, the lobe looks totally fine. but the back of the lobe is purple. the hole itself bleeds, and today the bruise next to the hole started to bleed as well. the taper has only been out for a day. i'm not sure if my ear is rejecting anything that goes into it, or if the piercing migrated or what. but i'd really like some help if anybody can figure it out.
i generally use acrylic tapers to stretch.
thanks! if i need to clarify on anything, just tell me. i hope somebody can tell me what's going on.